Amy Poehler has spent her career playing characters that make us laugh — from her SNL days, through movie roles in comedies like Mean Girls, Baby Mama, and Sisters to her leading role as Leslie Knope on Parks & Recreation — but she put the characters aside and got deeply personal in her 2014 memoir, Yes Please. In the book, Poehler recounts her life and career with her signature sharp sense of humor, providing incisive pieces of wisdom along the way. Of course, like so many of Poehler’s characters, Yes Please is instantly quotable. Here are the lines Kindle users have highlighted most often:

  1. “You have to care about your work but not about the result. You have to care about how good you are and how good you feel, but not about how good people think you are or how good people think you look.”
  2. “Decide what your currency is early. Let go of what you will never have. People who do this are happier and sexier.”
  3. “People are their most beautiful when they are laughing, crying, dancing, playing, telling the truth, and being chased in a fun way.”
  4. “That is the motto women should constantly repeat over and over again. Good for her! Not for me.”
  5. “Going from crying to laughing that fast and hard happens maybe five times in your life and that extreme right turn is the reason why we are alive, and I believe it extends our life by many years.”
  6. “I think we should stop asking people in their twenties what they ‘want to do’ and start asking them what they don’t want to do. Instead of asking students to ‘declare their major’ we should ask students to ‘list what they will do anything to avoid.’ It just makes a lot more sense.”
  7. “Sticking up for ourselves in the same way we would one of our friends is a hard but satisfying thing to do. Sometimes it works.”
  8. “Wordsworth also said that the best part of a person’s life is ‘his little, nameless, unremembered, acts of kindness and of love.’”
  9. “Well, the first thing we do is take our brain out and put it in a drawer. Stick it somewhere and let it tantrum until it wears itself out. You may still hear the brain and all the shitty things it is saying to you, but it will be muffled, and just the fact that it is not in your head anymore will make things seem clearer. And then you just do it.”
  10. “Change is the only constant. Your ability to navigate and tolerate change and its painful uncomfortableness directly correlates to your happiness and general well-being.”