By Jessica Goodman
Updated December 08, 2015 at 03:54 PM EST
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Last week, Stone Temple Pilots and Velvet Revolver frontman Scott Weiland died in his tour bus while on the road in Minnesota. After his death, there was an outpouring of love, affection, and support from former bandmates, musicians, and fans. Now, his ex-wife Mary Forsberg Weiland has written a powerful essay about Weiland’s death.

“December 3rd, 2015 is not the day Scott Weiland died,” Forsberg Weiland, who shares two children with Weiland, wrote in an essay on Rolling Stone’s website. “It is the official day the public will use to mourn him, and it was the last day he could be propped up in front of a microphone for the financial benefit or enjoyment of others.”

The two married in 2000, but split in 2007, and Forsberg Weiland chronicled some of their relationship in her 2009 book, Fall to Pieces: A Memoir of Drugs, Rock ‘n’ Roll and Mental Illness. In her essay, Forsberg Weiland wrote that the couple’s children, Noah, 15, and Lucy, 13, “lost their father years ago.”

“Our hope for Scott has died, but there is still hope for others,” she wrote. “Let’s choose to make this the first time we don’t glorify this tragedy with talk of rock and roll and the demons that, by the way, don’t have to come with it. Skip the depressing T-shirt with 1967-2015 on it – use the money to take a kid to a ballgame or out for ice cream.”

See the full essay over at