Ariana Grande is fed up with how society treats women and their relationships. According to The Sun, Grande commented on rumors that she’s dating One Direction’s Niall Horan by saying, “I’m tired of needing to be linked to a guy, I’m not Big Sean’s ex, I’m not Niall’s new possible girl. I’m Ariana Grande.”
After the interview began gaining traction online, however, Grande used her vast social media presence to comment on the way people discuss her personal life and what being a woman means in 2015.
“Being ’empowered’… is not the same as being a ‘bitch’…” Grande wrote. “HAVING SOMETHING TO SAY… is not the same as HAVING A BAD ATTITUDE. What I meant when I said what I said about not being Sean’s ex is that I am tired of living in a world where women are mostly referred to as a man’s past, present, or future PROPERTY / POSSESSION. I… do not. belong. to anyone. but myself. and neither do you.”
Grande went on to note that she comes from a long line of feminists (she cited her aunt as being the first Italian-American female president of the National Press Club), and called out the double-standard of how the sex lives of men and women are treated in daily life.
“If a woman has a lot of sex (or any sex for that matter)… she’s a ‘slut.’ If a man has sex…. HE’S. A. STUD. A BOSSSSSS. a KING… If a woman even TALKS about sex openly… she is shamed!” Grande wrote.
Acknowledging that misogyny is still present, Grande added that she “can’t wait to live in a world where people are not valued by who they’re dating / married to / attached to, having sex with (or not) / seen with…. but by their values as an individual.”
The piece closes with a quote from Gloria Steinem: “Any woman who chooses to behave like a full human being should be warned that the armies of the status quo will treat her as something of a dirty joke. She will need her sisterhood.”
After posting the essay, Grande added a post-script on Twitter. “Y’all being the ‘sisterhood’ mentioned at the end,” she wrote. “Love u.”