By Sarah Caldwell
February 06, 2013 at 06:19 PM EST

In a special interview with Oprah, Nate Berkus discussed how he approached his sexuality with his father. 

Berkus asked his dad if he respected him and thought he was smart and his dad said yes. “And I said ‘Dad why would I choose to make my life more difficult — why would anyone choose to make their life more difficult?'” Berkus said. “The truth of the matter is that being gay is the way that I was born. I believe this to the core of my being.”

People has the full clip here. The special airs Feb. 10 and Feb. 17 on OWN.

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