The 'Forces of Nature' star reveals how she eliminates losers in her search for true love

By Liane Bonin
March 15, 1999 at 05:00 AM EST
Darren Michaels
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Queen of spunk Sandra Bullock hardly seems the type to be easily unnerved, but the star of ”Forces of Nature” (opening Friday) tells EW Online that a long line of loser love interests has compounded her wedding-bell blues. ”I’ve always been petrified of marriage,” says the 34-year-old actress. ”I’ve always thought that someone would want to change me, and I’d be locked up like this veal specimen in a box.”

Bullock claims the problem is that past boyfriends haven’t always appreciated her offbeat charm. ”I’ve been with people who at first say ‘You’re so fun, you’re so wild,’ but (then) they start saying ‘Oh, no, don’t do THAT,’ says the ”Speed” star, who has been linked with actors Tate Donovan and Matthew McConaughey. ”And then I don’t do (what I want), and I become this separate person from who I was, and I resent it. In the past I’ve surrounded myself with people who weren’t the right people for me to be myself with.”

Having learned from her mistakes, Bullock has instituted some changes to weed out the bad beau candidates. No. 1: watch out for on-set affairs that often sour before the wrap party. ”I’ve had my dalliances,” she says. ”On a set, you’re thrown into a situation where you have to create this intimacy. It’s unnatural, but you end up spending more time with this person than you do with your significant other. I now have a two-week rule. I give it two weeks and just observe the other person, because it’s like clockwork. At first, it’s, ‘Oh, he’s so sweet and so attentive and so great.’ But after two weeks, you realize, ‘Oh, he does that and that and that like every other guy — okay, I get it!”’

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