Amy Poehler has some bedroom advice: Don’t fake it.
“I know you are tired/nervous/eager to please/unsure of how to get there,” Poehler writes in her new book, Yes Please. “Just remember to allow yourself real pleasure and not worry about how long it takes.”
Yes Please is Poehler’s first book, an autobiographical memoir of sorts that show’s off the Parks and Recreation actress’ wit — as well as her wisdom. “Good for her! Not for me,” Poehler writes when discussing her decision to forgo an all-natural birth. “That is the motto women should constantly repeat over and over again. Good for her! Not for me.”
Women aren’t the only ones she offers advice to—in her “World Famous Sex Tips” chapter, she instructs men to, “Be nice, tell your woman she is hot, never shame her, and never hurt her.”
Head over to Time to see other highlights from Yes Please, in stores now.